Monday, August 3, 2015

I'm Not A Hero

Raising 3 kids under 3 isn't a small thing. I've learned that over and over in the past 6 months. But I'm not a hero.

When I leave the house with the kids, I get flooded with comments, stares, and praise. A big double stroller with a toddler riding in tow is certainly hard to miss.

"Go mama! I don't know how you do it!"
"Better you than me. I'm overwhelmed just looking at you!"
"I can't believe you get out!"
"You are my hero, mama!"

I appreciate the compliments. I'm proud that I feel capable of taking our kids out. And yet, sometimes I feel something else. I'm not sure of the word. It's not exactly embarrassed. Maybe undeserving?  I mean, the reality is this: This life is exactly what I signed up for. Literally. I physically signed a paper to transfer to strong, beautiful embryos to my body with a 18 month old baby at home. None of this was a surprise. I dreamed of it. I cried for it. I wished with all my being that I would have the opportunity to raise a family.

It's a lot of work, and planning, and coordination. Getting out of the house often feels like a 3-ring circus. Bottles, diapers, extra outfits, snacks,'s an entirely different level of effort than tossing a baby in the stroller and heading out for a few errands. But like I said, I signed up for it. And I love it.

Today I'm not showered. I am wearing clothes I grabbed off the floor because I got barfed on this morning. I honestly couldn't tell you what I've eaten today besides animal crackers and coffee. I'm definitely not a hero. But I love these kids like crazy. Most days I do my best. Many days I fall short. And that's that.



  1. I'm glad you're blogging again. Your boys are beautiful.

  2. Your self-awareness is really beautiful!

  3. happy to see you back blogging - been following for a while and i've missed your updates on here. I have 2 year old twin girls and i still deal with the 'i don't know how you do it?!' comments. My response back is always 'well i don't know what it's like to have 1!' (i have 'just' my twins). But honestly, i know exactly what you mean - i almost feel unworthy to receive the compliment. I'm just doing my thing like everyone else and surviving!

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